There is a story of a man who died and went to heaven to find two signs above two different lines. One sign said: “ALL THOSE MEN WHO HAVE BEEN DOMINATED BY THEIR WIVES, STAND HERE.” That line of men seemed to stretch off through the clouds into infinity.
The second sign read: “ALL THOSE WHO HAVE NEVER BEEN DOMINATED BY THEIR WIVES, STAND HERE.” Underneath the sign stood one man.
He went over to the man, grabbed his arm and said, “What’s the secret, how did you do it? That other line has millions of men and you are the only one standing in this line.”
The man looked around with a puzzled expression and said, “Why, I am not sure I know. My wife just told me to stand here.”
We have all heard jokes about the husband being dominated by the wife but ladies jokes apart your husband might actually be annoyed of some of your habits that you might do just out of love and concern. So just immediately stop any of those habits that might match with the pointers given below.
1. Spooking around everything he does:
Be it a lone ride on his bike or talking to a friend, always poking around and asking for reasons to everything is surely going to harm the understanding between you two. Everyone needs to have that personal space in their lives. The thought of ‘do jism ek jaan’ thing might not be amusing to all. Try and approach him in a comforting manner and have a good talk which might end up to be a great night. Pinching him for no reason might compel him to hide things just to make things comforting for you.
2. Thinking that your way is the only right way
You might be good at things but doing something differently is also not wrong. You married the man knowingly that he is a responsible man and can take care of the situation whenever the circumstances are not favorable for you. Just overruling upon your husband’s opinion may first of all annoy him and also in some cases lead him to lose his self-confidence. Have a talk with him on issues that you should both work out together no matter big or small.
3. Telling him that ‘these are just not the right guys to hang out with’
Remember ladies that your man has friends whom he knows even before he went down for you. Instructing him to stay away from that guy just because he has bad table etiquettes or ‘he knows nothing other than making fun of others’ might not ruin their friendship but might totally give a scratch to your relationship. Your man is mature enough to be in the right set of guys, thats where the trust factor kicks in. He trust upon all his dudes and also expects you to have the same trust from you towards him.
4. Taking your husband to be a mind reader:
Your husband might fall prey for the fact that all men are perfect mind readers, but sorry to correct you ladies, your husband might be great at making up to you or cheering you up at times you feel low, but please excuse them if they are unable to realize that you wanted a tight hug from him during that last over of the match while you were having a tough time realizing in your mind that you have loads of work upon you lined up for the next day. Do not create an issue just upon this instead what you can do is that have a chat praising him over his cute habits and bringing in something that you expect from him but framing it in a way that he likes. This will surely spice-up things between you too and you never know he might actually turn into a great mind reader. (#ladies never get their facts wrong)
5. Expecting your husband to be the perfect prince charming at all times:
There is no such thing as a perfect prince charming given that your marriage has its existence in the real world. Instead of focusing on your man’s shortcomings try and recognize the wonderful things about him. “What’s good with that?” your husband might be encouraged to be more of the prince charming you want him to be. Men surely would die for ladies who could see the good across all the bullshit within them.
6. Bringing up issues from the 16th century during a fight:
You might have a tendency to use the weapon called ‘Don’t you remember what you did that summer evening’ , warning: summer evening might even refer to that time when you cried for the first time. This weapon is considered to be highly dangerous carrying within it the power of ‘taking the discussion nowhere’. It is requested that this weapon should not be bought to use until it is the end of the world. Ladies you are strictly advised to handle the issue like a sensible person and not like a complete maniac.
7. Dishonoring him:
This might hurt your man from the very core and might affect him severely. Any person in any scenario does not expects disrespect. Getting this from a person whom you swore to live and love your whole life is sure to give out an ever-hurting scar. Be careful of what you speak to you husband even at times you are going through a fight. The fight will be temporary but those harsh words will surely be permanent.
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